Lately it has come to my attention (yet again) how very much the admonition to “be a good girl” has affected my life, and not for the better. I strongly suspect I am by no means alone on this, so maybe some of this will resonate for you too. The phrase “be a good girl” is usually used to keep a girl child – or even woman – “in her place.” The simple four-word phrase is backed up by the not-entirely-unspoken Good Girls Ten Commandments.